Passion and romance is so important to a healthy relationship.  That doesn’t mean that it always has to include intercourse and sex each time.  Valentine’s Day helps us to remember  to tell and show your sweetheart that they are your  one and only.

Little things are so important.  Like when you pass each other in the bathroom or in the hallway, that you grab their butt or steal a quick kiss is essential to show your sweetheart how much you love them and are still attracted to them.

Never forget that complimenting the things that you admire about your mate makes them feel  special and cherished.  It is easy to focus on the things that irritate you that he or she does,  but that will place negativity and obstacles in your relationship.  Choose your battles wisely my friends!!   Leaving his socks on the floor or her bras hanging from the shower rod is small change and is minuscule in the grand scheme of life.

Make your sweetheart your Valentine by surprising them with words and gifts of love.  Being a RN, I have been with so many spouses that have suddenly lost their love by sudden tragic means,  they sit and wish that their last words and together times were ones of positive loving times.

Make each moment count.  Make your sweetheart your Valentine, every moment, every day.                                                 

If you woke up one day and had some type of memory loss and did not know how old you really were, how old would you guess you are?  I came across this subject on a blog of a very senior friend of mine.

She approached it as a “creation of personal energy”.  It was imperative to constantly be challenging one’s self with new skills and physical goals.  Complacency is the fertile grounds for stagnancy.  If you get up each morning with looking at the day as a mountain of negativity to climb, then it will be just that.  Give yourself wonderful rewards of achievements when you reach your goals.  A new pair of shoes, that handbag you’ve been eying, or maybe a delicious iced nonfat late’ from the local bodega will be perfect.

My daughter home schools my granddaughter and has a “bingo” like card that she fills with stars as my granddaughter reaches her goals for the month.  At the start of a new card my daughter asks my granddaughter what she would love to be her reward for the card, my daughter writes that at the top of the card.  When she has filled all the squares of her “bingo” card then off they go to that outing or to the store for her reward.  This keeps both teacher and student excited and stimulated for learning.  The same will be for us as we get closer and closer to our goals.

Goals and personal challenges to strive towards are a never ending exercise of youthful growth and fitness.  Keeping yourself young as you feel and not old as you are is a wonderful challenge.  Helen Mirren has been photographed in her bikini last year on the European beaches.  Ms.  Mirren will be 67 this July.  Yahoo for her!!  She looks absolutely terrific!! Take a look for yourself below! If Ms. Mirren did not know how old she was and you did no know how old she was, how old would you think she is?  Certainly not 66, for sure!

So keep your diet healthy with low fat and low calorie foods,  antioxidants, your mind healthy with constant skill challenges, and your body healthy with physical exercise.  Learn to dance, swim, ride your bike.  Take daily walks.  Shock people with what your chronological age is because there is no way you will look like that.  Keep your mind set to youth and “catch” the “Peter Pan” syndrome.  Refuse to ever grow up or old!!  Soon you will not even believe your year calendar, you will forget how old you really are because you will really not look  or feel like it!  Ready, set, GROW YOUNG!!

If you think about it, shorts and bathing suit weather is a very few short months away.  Yes it is the cold of winter now but maybe you are planning a tropical winter getaway or really being focused on “This summer I will definitely feel better and look better in shorts and a bathing suit!”.

NOW IS THE TIME MY FRIENDS!!

You can do this, and you will be so much happier and healthier for it!

Good luck!

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